Top 4 Differences: First Pregnancy vs Second Pregnancy
So you’re pregnant again, CONGRATS!
Whether it’s just what you’ve been waiting for or it came as a bit of a surprise there are a few things that are going to be different no matter what and a few that may or may not be the case for everyone. I can’t speak for all of the possible changes but I can tell you what’s been different for me.
Here are the top 4 differences I’ve noticed during my second pregnancy.
- Symptoms are different.
The second I was pregnant with Easton I could not eat ANYTHING without feeling nauseous. Thanksgiving was like the day after I got pregnant and I had the perfect ratio of turkey, mashed potatoes, and gravy on my fork. I put it in my mouth and I couldn’t make myself chew it. I sat there with my eyes watering from trying not to gag. My cousin’s husband was sitting next to me and he was like, “are you ok?” I had to run to the bathroom and spit it out and a whole Thanksgiving feast was wasted to me 🙁
Thankfully, I only threw up one time the whole pregnancy but I also had to eat like a bird. Thank freaking goodness that this time I can eat whatever the heck I want! All the foods sound good to me and I have so much more energy because I’m actually able to fuel my body.
There were a lot of other differences too, mostly the first time I had a lot of the typical pregnancy symptoms to begin with and the second time I had like none. By the third trimester though they’ve been pretty much the same.
Your differences might not be as drastic as mine, but I guarantee there are at least a few new symptoms that will be added and a few that are taken away.
- Time moves along quicker
The first half of this pregnancy I spent at home and let me tell you, chasing a high energy toddler around all day makes the days go by so fast. Don’t get me wrong, there were still a lot of long days but those days were spent worrying about Easton and not being pregnant.
When you’re pregnant with your first you have a lot more time to daydream about baby. I was checking my pregnancy app everyday, multiple times a day! I always knew how many weeks and days I was along and what size baby was.
Now, I’m like “oh yeah, I should check how far along I am.” “Wait what??? 3rd trimester already? I thought I was only half way!” We’ll see if that lasts the whole time but so far I can’t believe how quickly things are moving along.
I’m also super lucky because most of this pregnancy I’ve hardly been able to notice I was even pregnant. At one point, in the beginning, I was worried that something was wrong because I felt like I had no symptoms. Now I’m constantly getting kicked so I don’t really have that problem.
Plus, you start feeling those kick a lot sooner which makes it feel like everything is progressing so fast. It took forever to start showing with Easton but this little guy had my belly popping early on. Your belly’s been stretched out before. It’s like a balloon. Each time you let the air out and blow it up again it gets stretchier and fills faster.
- Feelings are different.
With my first, I had been tracking my cycle for a while and knew when I was ovulating and exactly when to take a pregnancy test. I was so excited to find out I was pregnant! I spent every spare second imagining what he would be like. If he’d have hair, what color eyes he’d have, or if he’d look like his dad. I still am super curious about what this kid will look like but I don’t spend nearly as much time fantasizing over it.
When I found out I was pregnant this time, I only took a test because I knew my period was supposed to be coming any day and Ben and I were getting ready for a day in the city and I wanted to know if I should pack some supplies.
We weren’t doing anything to prevent but I really didn’t expect the test to be positive. I was super excited but also really shocked. I went to eat a bowl of cereal and my hands were shaking so much I spilt some of the milk!
The next difference in feeling came when I found out we were having another boy. I’m not going to lie, I thought because this pregnancy was going so differently that we were totally going to have a girl. I was super excited to pick out all the little girl clothes (picking out clothes was one of my favorite things about being pregnant the first time) and then we found out it was another boy. It took me a little bit to get excited about it but I really am excited for Easton to have a little best friend!
You may or may not have the same feelings I mentioned above but there is one key difference that every second time mom can claim:
- You’ve done this before
Knowing you’ve survived at least one pregnancy makes this one a whole lot easier. Maybe you have sickness with this pregnancy too. No problem, you’ve been there before. You know that you can get through it because you’ve done it before.
With Easton, I was ultra aware of all my symptoms and feelings. Sometimes they were worrisome. I didn’t know what was normal or not. This time I know a lot more and I know I survived the shortness of breath and random leg cramps.
Maybe you were terrified of labor (maybe it’s still a little scary) but this time you know a little more about what to expect. You know how worth it all the pain is because you’ve held your baby for the first time and forgot all about it for a moment.
You know you can do it and that makes the whole experience different. Even though symptoms or challenges may be different, you are much more prepared than you were the first time.
You got this mama!